We have all had times where we lose our Mindfulness. Sometimes these are small and seemingly insiginficant - a forgetful moment. Sometimes we lose our mindfulness to a medium extent, for longer periods of time, and this is where starting with a moment, memories or emotions blast through and take charge presenting themselves and dominating our mind stream. It could show as fits of anger, fits of sadness, screaming, yellling or even periods of pursuing pleasures to such an extent that it is to our own detriment. These medium periods of lapses in mindfulness usually don't lead to any horrible acts to others. In the most benign form these gaps might be recognized as "unaccounted periods of time" ("running on auto-pilot"), the mind ruminating- lost in fantasy, remembrance or preparation for the future and in a more serious form as bouts of anger, harsh speech and / or other destructive emotions and related activity. All of us have experienced many times when our mind is devoid of its better discretion or discernment and habits or emotional patterns take over without mindful restraint and have free rain until mindfulness and better judgment return During the medium lapses in mindfulness, most of the harm is done to ourselves in the form of not being present to the present moment and all that this provides although many times, it also brings pain to those who are close to us. Those fits of rage, yelling and screaming have an impact on our spouse, on our parents and most significantly on our children. The times that we "model" losing our mindfulness in front of our children, often leads to our children mimicking our behavior, which is rooted in a lack of mindfulness. Not the foundation that we probably wish to provide for them. By the time we get to the state of egregious lack of mindfulness, which always comes about starting with the small and medium lapses in mindfulness, the harm that can be done extends to others as well as to ourselves can be quite significant. For ourselves, it can lead to the loss of respect, or more seriously we might do something that breaks the law. To others, it can have lasting consequences and leave a negative imprint on their life that will bring about considerable suffering for them.
In any of these cases mentioned above, our loss of mindfulness will lead to self-blame and in the more serous cases, it will lead to blame by others and for some, it could even lead to blame by society, including time in jail. In fact every day, we can see in the world reporting of people's lapses in mindfulness It would be a CEO who makes sexual advances on employees or colleagues. It could manifest as malfeasance and criminal activities by anyone from CEOs overseeing major frauds to rank and files employees increasing "shrinkage". It also can manifest as speech that is harsh or untrue. All of these are examples of what happens when there are gaps in our mindfulness. And as more people act more outrageously and these acts are reported on daily, it can even lead to our own anger or outrage which, if we are not careful, may lead to us losing our own mindfulness and in turn may lead us to do things that we regret. Or we may become cynical and feel defeated, which are also gateways to allowing negativity to enter our minds and lose our mindfulness. And, by losing our own mindfulness we tread down the path numbing our sense of acceptable vs outrageous behavior and ultimately begin our descent into less mindfulness and ultimately more regrets. So really the case for increased mindfulness is really three fold. One, it helps us avoid the lapses which lead to our own indiscretions large and small. Two, it helps us focus on positive things in our life so we attract more good, associate with better friends and companions, engage in useful debate and discussion and ultimately make better choices on a regular basis. And finally and perhaps most importantly, it increases our intuition and knowledge so that we can differentiate between which activities and ventures we should engage in and do more of and which we should avoid or work to dispel. There is never a moment in my life, when I regret that I had more mindfulness and there are certainly times, as I come to appreciate what mindfulness is and the positive role it has in my life, that I wish I had or had had more. I hope that we can agree on how this training would be essential for not only ourselves and our children, but our friends, our colleagues, the communities we are part of, and our work life as well. Instituting a corporate mindfulness program does not need to be for the health benefits, the leadership and self-awareness benefits, the medical expense savings, or even pain reduction, all of which have proven and noteworthy gains. It simply makes sense because helping people develop their own sense of judgment that will lead to greater fulfillment in their own lives, is actually a beneficial undertaking for decision making, for company profits and for the world we live in. Mindfulness can easily be developed through systematic training, which starts with associating with those who are more mindful. The younger we start this training, the greater the beneficial it can have throughout our lives. As as far as I am aware, no one has ever regretted being more mindful. Get started today at www.mindfulnessmatters.training and bring a program to your company and community.
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AuthorAndrew has dedicated nearly 30 years studying mindfulness with many of the world's greatest teachers. He has taken the most beneficial of the practices that he has studied and verified and integrated them into a life with children, and a career in wealth management at global corporations . He is now dedicating his time to sharing these methods with people in all walks of life who are interested to discover ancient wisdom that is applicable and beneficial to modern life. Archives
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